Rather than letting resentment grow and ruin your happiness, find a way to work with an adversary. Say you owned a vintage dress shop four doors down from an- other secondhand dress store that just opened. Would you sit down and meet with the new owner if the knowledge you gained from the meeting would help you both compete better? That might be a good idea, right? Suggest having coffee as a way to open dialogue between you and your “adversary.” Use the time to see where your two ideologies dovetail and where they depart. Actively listen and repeat aloud what you think you just heard. You may discover discrepancies between what was actually said and what you thought was said. See if you can find common ground. Is there a way you might team up to bring more business into both stores? Find win-win scenarios that might serve you both well.